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Wednesday 22/05/91 – Helping At Vil’s School

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

I decided today to shampoo Hughan’s carpets in his bedroom. The lady who sold me the machine came to show me how to use it. Hughan was very involved in helping. We moved all the furniture around and he had a little go at pushing the machine.

Vil has asked me to go to his school to listen to the children reading. I feel this is doing something for Vil, so at 11.15am I went to his school for the first time to listen to the children reading individually.

We went to a friend’s house for tea in the afternoon.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Tuesday 21/05/91 – Playing Well

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

We went to a Tupperware party in the morning.

Hughan joined in and played with the other children who were there. It was at a friend’s house and Hughan played with a friend in the sandpit.

A friend of mine came to tea. She has three sons. Her youngest son was born on the same day as Hughan and we shared a room together at the hospital. The children all played well.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Monday 20/05/91 – Playing With Cars

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

Hughan and I played with his cars. We have a mat with roads marked out on it and Hughan was pushing cars along the road for the first time.

Vil started tennis lessons at the tennis club today. Hughan and I watched.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Friday 17/05/91 – Fun at the Cricket Club

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

Hughan and I went shopping. He loves the trolley and we stop and go at different things in the grocery shop that he recognises.

We went to the cricket club for Vil’s cricket lesson.

Hughan gets very excited when he sees the road, as we go through the bush on a very bumpy road to get there.

He took his motorbike, which he is the loves and he had a great time on all the playground equipment, and is going down the slide now with no help.

The boys have started sleeping in separate rooms and Hughan has stopped having his afternoon sleep.

We decided to do this as Hughan was only going to sleep at about nine o’clock, even though we had put him to bed at 7.30pm at the latest. Vil and Hughan were also keeping each other up. Vil was waving his arms and make movements which Hughan found very funny.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Hughan is usually in bed now just after 6pm and he wakes up about seven o’clock in the morning. He is sleeping well now. Hardly ever waking and crying in the night.

Thursday 16/05/91 – Comparing Things

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

We played with Hughan’s Duplo (Lego) house set today. Saying the words of each piece of furniture, and then comparing them with our own furniture.

I would ask Hughan – ‘show me the television’ and he would get up from his chair and show me our own television and he is saying “ame” for “same”.

In the afternoon we went to friends for tea. Hughan played well (as if we hadn’t been away).

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Wednesday 15/05/91 – Noise Making Toys

39Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

All is quiet at home (as Vil was back at school) and I had a busy morning.

First we had the noise making session. I made the noise of each thing and the table so Hughan could not see when I made the noise, and what was making the noise. He got quite excited but a bit impatient at times. Looking under the table and wanting to come my side of the table.

Afterwards we bathed the dogs. Hughan was very interested and wanted to join in, but had to be happy just watching.

He is talking a lot in his own little language, and often you can hear what he does on about – he will say a word that I recognise.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Tuesday 14/05/91 – Last Day Of School Holidays

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

Vil’s last day of school holidays. Wimpy has just opened up in Gaborone, so as a treat we went for a waffle and milk shakes.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Monday 13/05/91 – Happy To Be Home

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town (South Africa), knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone in Botswana, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

Vil and Hughan have played very well together.

In the UK my parents had given Vil and Hughan a dustbin truck, a tractor and trailer and a helicopter in Duplo (Lego). Both boys spend a lot of today with these toys and also out in the garden on their bikes.

I have left them to enjoy themselves.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

 

Vanessas’s Encouraging Letter – 08/04/91

Helping parents with hearing impaired and speech delayed children

23 years ago today Vanessa, at the Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town, had received a copy of my notes from Hughan’s diary. I was writing up diary notes so Vanessa knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone, so she could track Hughan’s progress between our return visits to the Centre every 3 months.

Vanessa wrote me a letter with some fantastic advice and lots of encouraging words.

Parent Guidance

Carel du Toit Centre

8th May 1991

Dear Sue

What a lovely surprise receiving your letter today as I didn’t expect to hear from you till after you returned from your trip to England. I am sure you guys are all having a fantastic time and take lots of photos.

You did such fantastic reinforcement of the farm (post Wed 20/03/91): playing with the farm mat, visiting the farm, playing with the duplo and plastic animals and reading storybooks about the farm.

It is superb to do such repetition as you are utilising different mediums and exposing Hughan to many different experiences. I am so pleased he knows the animal sounds.

Does he give the cow, pig, sheep and horse without any clues when you ask for them? I thought it was a lovely idea to make him sort the farm and duplo animals out.

How is his sorting tray? Remember to change the contents for variation.

Super naming of his clothing and items and it is good that he is dressing himself. Remember to ask for a specific item (one at a time) eg. “Give me your shirt”; so that you are simultaneously working on receptive language.

I’m so glad that he’s constantly acquiring new words. Remember to note them in the three columns at the back of your diary.

I think what you are doing for the deaf school in Romotswa is very special. Did you manage to convince the roundtable to help raise funds for the library?

(In 2011 I found out that Round Table did go ahead with the funding of the project, which was estimated at the least 17,000 Pula – this was so wonderful to find out – Thank you Round Table).

By the time you receive this letter to you will be back in Gaborone. Remember to bring all the photos from your UK trip to show me.

Keep up the wonderful work and send my regards to Willem. As always hugs and kisses for Hughan and Vil.

Looking forward to your next letter.

Vanessa

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )

Tuesday 30/04/91 – Writing to Vanessa while on Holiday

Diary Notes – 23 years ago today I wrote in my hearing impaired son’s diary. I was writing up Hughan’s ‘Diary’ so Vanessa, at The Carel du Toit Centre in Cape Town, knew what we were doing at home, in Gaborone, so she could track Hughan’s progress.

Dear Vanessa

We are having a great time in England. My sister and family have left to go back to their home in Devon.

Hughan has become very independence. He won’t let me hold his hand when we go on walks or hold the reins on his harness. He insists that Willem helps him if he needs help. It is giving me a great break from always helping him and allowing Willem and Hughan to spend time together.

Willem is enjoying spending time with his boys. We have bought Vil a kite which Willem and him love flying. The walks that we go on are beautiful as the spring flowers are all just blooming.

On our walks Hughan is not having any support from us. Willem hold the reins on his harness in such a way that if he goes to fall he gives him support before he lands on his hands.

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Hughan is responding to sound better now but often has too many distractions. We have also got him a ball bouncer with the two handles that he can hold onto and bounce. He also roles onto it with his tummy.

With us walking in the country lanes and into the village, and we also get to use the playground facilities. Hughan has improved a lot with his balance. He has also started to run everywhere. We have a lot of steps that he likes going up and down by himself, but he still holds the rail for support.

Hughan is saying more and more all the time. He loves watching the ships – he calls them “ips”. We call the boats – “boats” and yachts – “yachts” and Hughan responds to the different names.

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We have been on a train and also in the taxi.

The boys are loving their holiday. We have not spent much time shopping which has been great. We have almost forgotten what they are!!

My Step Aunt has spent a lot of time with Hughan. Hughan brings her a newspaper and the page through it to find the cars. Hughan love watching her draw faces in the cars to look like people sitting inside. He says “rou an rou” for the wheels turning “round and round”.

The boys have loved being with Granny and Grampa. Hughan calls Grampa  - “Papa” and Granny – “Nana”.

When the boys have a bubble bath at night time, and we let the water out, we go and watch the water going outside in the sea. First we show Hughan the water in the bath, we run outside, watching the water when my Step Mum lets the water out. We watched the bubbles go out into the sea and foam on the water. Then when we go back inside the house we go and see the water has gone. Both the boys love this game.

We have had a lovely time with the folks and we have enjoyed each day (usually doing house chores and going on walks). We have had a lot of sunny days although the wind has been very cold.

I feel Hughan has benefited well from all of the walking, climbing, swinging, bouncing etc.

It was very sad as usual to say goodbye to everyone. We had a very good trip home. Hughan was a bit sick on the flight soon after we took off, but soon settles and slept all the way. Vil also slept well. Hughan slept across two seats and Vil slept on the floor.

On our return to Harare, we stopped over for two nights and then drove back to Gaborone.

We left at four o’clock in the morning and we were home by six thirty in the evening. A long day, but we stopped quite a few times on our way. Hughan did not sleep at all in the car.

When we got home the boys were on their bikes playing in the garden. Very pleased to be home!!

We collected the dogs from kennels on the 12th. We explained to Hughan where we were going and he knew exactly what we were saying. He remembered the road and there was great excitement when we saw the dogs. When we got back home we hardly saw the dogs or Vil and Hughan.

(Helping parents with hearing impaired children through our experience…we are following our profoundly deaf son’s diary, from 1990, so you can see what we did to help him with his speech and hearing. Hughan is 25 years old now and he can hold a conversation on a phone. It is the little thing we did every day, over a long period of time, that has helped him. Please visit our page…’like’ and follow us to help others…Thank you :) )